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The late Tom Flowers–aka, “The Old Honker”–was a legendary storyteller from Dorchester County. Some of his tales are collected in an out-of-print 1998 book titled Shore Folklore: Growing Up with Ghosts, ’N Legends, ’N Tales, ’N Home Remedies, including this one about the old legend on Delmarva that it was bad luck if a girl or woman came calling at your house on New Year’s Day.

Flowers is recalling his younger years here. Born in the early 1920s, he grew up on Hoopers Island at a time when this legend was taken very, very seriously–so much so, he writes, that “pots of scalding water sat on the stoves for such a visitor.”  He notes that as the years passed the rules were eased up a little bit so that women were allowed to visit on New Year’s Day, but only after a boy or man had been at the door first.

“Mabel Parks forgot herself, completely forgot what day of the week it was, but more importantly forgot that it was New Year’s Day when she went to her neighbor’s well to draw water, but Evelyn Ruark had seen her and was deeply upset to think that Mabel would break such a well-kept tradition.

When Mabel did remember it later in the day, she just hoped that no one had seen her. It would be hard to get through the night without knowing. She would know the very first thing the next morning. As soon as it was light, she made her way to her good friend, Evie Ruark’s. The door was latched. She had been seen.

The Ruarks blamed all their bad luck on Mabel’s visit. They would not speak to her, but they let the community know that she was the cause of their problems. When [a family member,] Jane Ruark, died suddenly, they openly blamed [Mabel] and categorized her as an evil witch. It is sad to report that the community sided with the Ruarks. They gave no sympathy to Mabel. She and her family were ostracized.

I could remember at least ten years of the argument. I must say that as a child, I always felt sorry for Miss Mabel—but I also could see the pot of boiling water on the back of the old cookstove. There were no “ifs, ands, or buts” for my father to accept any reason for woman visiting another house on New Year’s Day.”

Tom Flowers, Eastern Shore Storyteller

Tom Flowers, Eastern Shore Storyteller

I first learned about this strange tradition thanks to fans on my Facebook page. When I posted something on New Year’s Day 2017 about some completely unrelated to this topic, a man named Kevin Cusick chimed in with this childhood memory:

“When I was little MomMom used to wake me up early on New Years morning and send me on my way to all the widows in the neighborhood. Apparently, if a little boy was the first person to wish them happy New Year they would have good luck for the year and in return they all reached into their purses and gave me change. I’ve not found one other person my own age who ever did that but I lived in a neighborhood of old timers. Has anyone else from Chincoteague heard of this tradition?”

Soon, others were chiming in:

Beth Messick: “I’m from Salisbury, not Chincoteague, but I do remember that it was forbidden for a female to be the first one in the door on New Year’s Day. :-)”

A woman named Laura Davis then chimed in with news that the tradition is still alive in her neck of the woods, though she didn’t include any info in her post about where she was living: “My mother-in-law does this too. We take our boys out to the neighbors houses now!”

If anyone has any interesting memories about this girls-are-bad-luck business, please feel free to share in the comments, as some readers did last year at this time. The same goes for any of you who know anything about where the tradition came from. I would love to know more so that I can expand this post with more info going forward!

–Posted by Jim Duffy on Jan. 1, 2018; updated on Jan. 1, 2020

13 Comments

  • Mary Warren Williams says:

    Yes momma always said a man in the door first on the first day of the new year. Also, black eyed peas for good luck on this day too.

  • Christine says:

    Growing up in Cambridge and Secretary, I was always told that a male was supposed to be the first to enter your home on New Year’s Day if you wanted to avoid bad luck all year.

  • Linda Renfro says:

    I’m in my 70’s and all my people were from Fredericksburg, Virginia area and we lived in Pasadena, Md., and I can remember as a child that my mother never wanted a female to come into the house first on New Year’s Day. I always thought it was a Virginia tradition, but after reading this story I’m not so sure. Very interesting!

  • Patty says:

    Our tradition holds that not only should a man be first to enter your home come New Year’s, but the darker his hair, the better your luck!

  • Liza says:

    When I was a child on Hooper’s Island, my older sister’s husband always visited the neighbors on New Year’s Day so that a dark haired man would be first in the door! And black eyed peas were the traditional food, said to bring wealth in the new year. Now that I live in western Maryland, the good luck meal is pork and saurkraut!

  • Pamela Foley says:

    As a girl growing up on Chincoteague, I was always jealous of the little boys who came for change on New Years Day. My mom would call across the street for the neighbor’s boy to come over for change if he hadn’t already made it. I never knew why until now. Thanks!

  • Adrienne Hyatt says:

    My grandmother always had my uncle come to our house first thing on New Year’s Day. And she insisted that it had to be through the front door.

  • Christine Barlow says:

    My father,Captain Charles W. Todd, Sr., always wanted my brother to come visit first when I was growing up in Cambridge.

  • Kris Knarr says:

    We called it “First Footing.”
    My roots are in south central Pennsylvania, and the “coal regions.” I remember my father leaving through the back door right before midnight, “letting the old year out.” Then after the stroke of midnight, he, a dark haired man, would come through the front door carrying a loaf of bread and money. This was to bring good luck on the home.

  • Beth Breining says:

    Beth Breining – Jan. 2,2019 @ 0930 – I am Kris Knarr’s cousin from above. We are from central Pa. about 50 miles north of Harrisburg. Yes it is called first footing and we still do it today. We leave money on the doorstep and the first footer brings it in with him indicating there will be money coming into that home all year.

  • BRENDA Craig-Pawlik says:

    I have lived in Virginia most of my life and I have not heard of this tradition! But I love these types of things! I do always prepare my hoppin John black eyed peas for New Years along with a few other family traditions that we have always carried out. Thank you for sharing these tidbits. Such a fun read. Happy New Year to All.

  • I enjoyed this article and all of the replies. Although I live in Prince George’s County, MD, I was born and raised in Somerset County, in Fairmount, MD. I remember how, on January 1, Mr. Banks (Bankshire was his real name) Waters would be the first visitor/male to everyone’s home. He always wore a fur parka with a hood; he looked like an Eskimo! We children loved to see him come because he arrived with lots of brown bags of goodies: apples oranges, nuts, and hard candy. After his arrival, we girls would be allowed to go outside of the house. We, however, were not allowed to visit anyone because we were told that it would bring “bad luck” to the families to whom we would visit.

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